My status update

Meredith is uncomfortable finding out about your relationship status change through facebook.

It has happened a few times and I'm always insanely curious. I mean, surely there's a story there, girl who went from engaged to single to in a relationship to single to married all within a few months. And guy who went from engaged to single. And guy who went from married to "it's complicated." And even though we haven't spoken in over ten years, you apparently want to talk about it because you put it on facebook.

I feel like this is an aspect of facebook that has been a lot more meaningful that it was ever intended. I mean, when you sign up, you enter all this info about yourself so that people that you haven't talked to in a while can find out about your post high school life pretty quickly. They see where you work, how much education you have, who you married or who you are dating, and then they flip through your pics to see your kids (or your dogs.)

But then, things change. When do you decide to change your facebook status? I used to wonder why people changed their status instead of just removing their status altogether. Because aren't people going to ask questions?

But then I realized that there's really only one reason - they want people know. They want people to ask questions. Not out of morbid curiousity's sake, but for the sake of kindness and concern. I've recently begun learning the lesson that one of the worst things you can do for someone who is undergoing a major life change is not to ask them about it or mention it at all.

So I guess I'm a little glad that facebook lets me know where a little kindness might be appreciated.